Autumn turn– change

I write a lot about perspective here, our world is how we see it, that kind of thing. There is great personal responsibility in that practice, but also the potential to empower ourselves beyond our wildest imaginations. If you are a regular reader, or know me, you know I believe this.

The biggest criticism to this type of thinking is privilege, in all of its forms. I know. I don’t dispute my own considerable privilege and I try to stay grounded and cognizant that a lot of people have very different experiences for really unfair reasons and are suffering as a result.

In other venues, I write about culture and privilege more extensively and critically. Here, I haven’t. It isn’t that I have been unaware of how some readers react to what I’ve been writing, nor is it that I don’t care about challenging and disrupting social and cultural mores, especially because of the privilege I hold, but since I started this blog I’ve chosen to focus on quickly readable, relatively positive spiritual musings. This needs to change. I still see the world in the same way: there is magic everywhere, nothing is greater than love and everything living is interconnected, these things are undeniable to me, but I have also had a great remembering that the personal is indeed political. And I am going to write about it here sometimes, because, plainly, it feels wrong not to.

If we truly want to change life on this planet, or, in my opinion, to ensure our survival as a species four generations from now, we need to get comfortable with the uncomfortable things. And that list of things, things that we don’t really know how to be comfortable with, is really long.

It’s everything from not buying strawberries in unrecyclable plastic clamshells in Canada in January to learning the skills to build rapport with someone who rigidly views the world in a totally different way, and everything in between. It’s learning and facing the stuff that scares us the most, growing. It’s taking care of all of our own garbage (literal and metaphoric). It’s pushing ourselves beyond comfort or routine when we really just want to stay ensconced in whatever life we happen to be living. It is our birth and rebirth and it is necessary to sustain life.

The status quo is dangerous because the way many of us are currently living, in fact, the way our societies are organized to function, we can easily avoid dealing with whatever it is we want to avoid. But here’s the thing, another law of nature, whatever it is we are avoiding, it doesn’t go anywhere. There simply isn’t anywhere for it to go. Anything that isn’t being managed accumulates and over time, the universe corrects this for us, but there is always a price. Are the consequences of avoidance enough to motivate us to pay attention?

You know, this fear of change, it’s universal, we all feel it, albeit for different reasons. How does it strike you to reflect upon the fact that others are feeling the same things you are? It makes me feel braver, like if I put myself out there and fall flat on my face in at least what feels a totally public fashion (though I am sure most of us would be surprised at how little others take in of our experience), there are others who are out there who know what pushing through fear feels like, who are taking risks in the pursuit of just getting things done all of the time, and these people will be there, not necessarily to dust us off as we get up, but just knowing that there are other people going through their own things to create change, too, people who will be there alongside you when you decide you’re just going to do something in your own way and unapologetically. That’s pretty remarkable. That’s inspiring. That’s a nudge for change.

There’s also that Liz Gilbert quote “I’ve never seen any life transformation that didn’t begin with the person in question finally getting tired of their own bullshit.”
So good. Personal stagnation, another big nudge.

I don’t know about you, but I don’t want to cling to anything when it’s clear it’s over, I’m not a person to put energy toward manufacturing anything that just isn’t true and I don’t like the feeling of not trying my best for a sustained period of time.

And so, change. Thank you for reading this. There is nothing as freeing and empowering as getting down to the core of yourself, tending, and seeing your own forest for the trees. As always, perspective. A seasonal shift doesn’t hurt, either.

Thank you, Mother Nature. It’s autumn here now.

5 thoughts on “Autumn turn– change Leave a comment

  1. Love this post Lauren especially the Liz Gilbert quote. ‘Not being able to see the wood for the trees’ is a regular saying of mine, seeing my own forest for the trees brings a different perspective. Thank you for the insight.

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  2. Hi Lauren,
    Hope all is well. All ok here so far 🙏.
    I was away in The Gambia 3rd Dec 2019 -16 March 2020 & I cant believe that I am only just getting to posts that I have put aside to re read.
    Of course a lot has happened in the world since then which makes your post all the more significant.
    I have accessed zoom for several things since my return home. Interestingly enough my brother sent me details of eventbrite events and I have registered to watch Liz Gilbert and Julia Cameron of The Artist’s Way in discussion. The event is 16th September 18 30 – 19 30 hours GMT. Ruby Wax has a presentation on 18th September at the same time on ‘Now for the Good News’ a discussion on her new book on coping with life post Covid.
    Autumn is just around the corner here in uk of course and I will try to maintain my park walks.
    Take care

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    1. Hi, Margaret!
      How lovely to hear from you. The Gambia? If you feel comfortable sharing, I’d love to hear more.
      So much has/is happening in the world. I think practicing the things that nourish us is a wonderful thing, like your park walks. My son and I just came in from one of those!
      This Gilbert/Cameron online event sounds fantastic! I am a longtime fan of both. Thank you for sharing this, I will look into it, too.
      I hope the turn of autumn finds you very well.


  3. Hi Lauren,
    Thank God 🙏 with the turn of Autumn I am well so far.
    I have been visiting The Gambia since January 2012 when I visited a hotel with my friend recommended by my gym trainer. At the time I was caring for my mother having retired in July 2010 from Public Health Nursing aged 55 years ( nurses able to retire then at 55 years). My brother who worked abroad was able to care for mum during this period.
    I fell in love with the country immediately. There was so much about it’s people that reminded me of my parent’s native Ireland.
    I suppose it was a classic holiday maker meets waiter. (Eddie – Gambian name Edrisa. ) Perhaps I’ll elaborate about that again.
    From then onwards I have kept in touch visiting again July 2012, December 2012,June 2013 onwards gradually increasing my time there from 10 days, 2 week’s, month x 2, 3 months and 4 months x 2.
    My About section refers to The Gambia as do my reposts & posts from December 2019. One post Boundaries and Trust you will see a pic of Eddie and I.
    I have so many friends there who never forget your name.
    Thank you so much for your interest. I do need to categorise my blog.
    I hope to revisit yours also Lauren ❤️🙏🙂💁🏻‍♀️


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